Although dating apps may not be for everyone, 1 in 10 non-single adults report having met their current spouse online or through a dating app. Others believe internet dating is terrible due of their prior experience(s), although it may sound like a modern-day fairytale.
Why Some Reddit Users Believe That Online Dating Is Terrible
u/Hoggiebearz relayed a tale about a person they knew who had been catfished by an elderly woman, saying, “There’s plenty of catfish in the sea.” He had been corresponding with this girl online for a very long period, they wrote. We live in north Georgia, therefore he intended to travel there to see her. She said that she was actually an obese 43-year-old woman when he informed her he was going to drive over to visit her. He was 23. He prefers not to discuss it. Yikes!
Another story came from u/mischieflunna, who was duped by a “22-year-old lesbian posing as a straight man using the Snapchat gender swap filter.” “I didn’t realize it until ‘he’ asked me to come over,” the individual continued. But the Reddit user is only one of many people who have fallen for catfishing scams. And while utilizing filters and photo editing applications is handy and entertaining, many still believe that overusing and depending on these is fast turning into a “problem.”
Consider TikTok’s “bold glamour filter,” which news organizations like NBC News and NPR said many people find to be “terrifyingly realistic” and that it creates yet another unachievable standard for beauty.
Getting Misogynistic “Match”
People should move toward equality these days, and it s understandable that some beliefs from the past can’t be easily shed — especially when people were exposed to such norms growing up. However, sometimes the audacity of some people to say certain things can leave a person speechless.
Just one Reddit member, please. She said that a man ghosted her after they went on a date. You realize you’re almost 30, right? Her date texted her after a week had passed. Your eggs are already mostly dried up. Tick Tock tick tock, your limited value is dissipating. You aged milk glass, good luck. You’re too old to be choosy, therefore Mr. Perfect isn’t out there. I apologize for being frank. Your life is awful.
What’s worse is that this wasn’t the first time she encountered a person who made chauvinistic remarks to her, as many women have before. Similar remarks were made to her by the last man she dated: “Years may pass before you find someone else, and then you’ll reach a point where you can’t have children. Even while you may still be attractive as you age, I haven’t even reached my peak attractiveness and won’t till I’m in my 40s. However, the window for women is substantially smaller. You have a biological clock that will eventually expire. — and where is the irony in this? According to the user, this guy didn’t even desire children.
Gold-Seeking Men And Women
We are all too familiar with the tale of the gold-digger by this point. You’d think people could recognize one from a mile away, but it turns out they can’t! Nowadays, people are more inventive! Several men recounted their experiences in the r/dating thread on how their matches enmesh them right away after learning what they do for a living. Both men and women commonly receive requests for money transfers from their matches.
Some Reddit users even shared their own advice on how to identify or avoid money diggers when using dating apps or going on dates with someone they met online. Others observed that if their date orders the most costly item on the menu, you can “tell” whether their date is a gold digger, while yet others advised you should minimize your career or salary.
Weirdos You Need To Be Wary Of
Every date won’t be successful. We embark on one for this very reason!–to determine if we get along with our dates. But it’s amazing how some people may occasionally leave you thinking, “Is ANYONE going to be compatible with them?” A Reddit user wrote, “Had a guy tell me I looked like someone who smells nice, which isn’t that bad except the then asked what perfume I wear so that he could smell me while he winked to the pictures on my profile.”
Another user, u/EmpathicBadger, provided little context for their post or a clear sense of the story’s arc. They only stated that the scariest thing that had happened to them on an internet date was a threat that demons would be called to kill them. The scariest thing their online date said to them, according to u/Starlight_Sparrow, was “You’re so small.” You surely could squeeze into many nooks and crannies. Yes, we wouldn’t be surprised if the OP bolted the moment they heard it!
Don’t Be Afraid to “Nope TF”
Online dating can be terrible and it will probably take years before we have time to read all the horror stories that have been posted online. Even said, there are still a great deal more that aren’t posted online. Though the stories we read about can be frightening, be assured that there are thousands of non-creepy, non-misogynistic, and non-catfishing users of online dating services. According to a survey by the Pew Research Center, 3 in 10 US adults currently use or have used dating apps. Therefore, if you’re single, you can still have faith that you’ll find the right person someday!
Finally, use extreme caution if you want to go on a date with someone you met online! And if a date isn’t working out, don’t be hesitant to “nope TF”—especially if your safety is in danger. The great thing about dating apps is that they allow you to ensure that you are having a good time when out on dates. You can conveniently meet a lot of individuals!
